SHE’S GOT ME IN THE SCOPE

 

There are no lyrics that could explain this

A thousand heartbeats of perfect expression

And sheer completion of my absorption

Into a realm where my heart is melted with a kiss

 

A new reign befalls this tender territory

And whelm the place with unwritten emotions

Wherefore it happened with encapsulations

That rounded off the heart into your lasting beauty

 

They are here

The feelings which gave wings to the heart

To let fly- in freedom far beyond planet earth

But stay with ‘she’ like close whispers in the ear

 

The scope

An abode

For heart loads

And joining places

 

She’s got me in her scope

And this heart- the tender

Is rounded off

To her lasting beauty

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Weekend Thrills

 

I love the weekend
It is the only time I woke up at ten
Even though I still ruffle outta bed
I take my bath already noon
While rummaging inside boxes for best fit
I get dressed for no reason
And I enjoy the company of lazy friends with pleasure

The only time my chores list lacks ink
Its emptiness gives me enough space to explore
And I just live the moment
Not having to give account

I love the weekend
It shows another side of me
The care free absent being
And my lazy self explained
For I shut all work doors
The jobs’ and the house doors
I skipped meals just to make more time for play
To cause all the youthful troubles I pleasurable want
And tell the world I am as well crazy as nature’s beauty

I love the weekend
For its emptiness gives me enough space to to explore

WHATSAPP TEXTING- CAN A GUY LOSE INTEREST IN A GIRL?

Have always believed that whenever you are having a conversation on relationship, it must have been that you have been a victim of one or two circumstances surrounding it. Therefore, it is correct to say that the content of this write up is subjective, nevertheless, there is need to put some logic and be deductively rational. Personally, I feel girls who have long queue of guys on them tend to be dramatic and bossy when it comes to chatting people up and replying messages especially when the other party is just a mere friend and has no ‘relationship’ intentions. What then happens when you chat a girl up and she refuses to answer or at last when she does, it is a one word answer?

 

After various research and books reading, have understood that in conversation, whether formal or informal, some responses are better off averted. For clarity, the content of this write up is on ‘replies’ not on the whole body of a conversation. And like I said, it is wholly subject to an experience so am definitely not talking about girls chatting guys up, my area of concentration is girls replying messages to a friend (on a normal friendship level). In order to kill off any form of criticism from the outset, we should consider polar questions that require yes or no answers. I bet you can picture a reaction when after you have asked ‘hope you are doing fine’ and after few minutes, the reply you got was a sentence cased ‘yes’. Well, I don’t believe the only word I was waiting for is ‘yes’. Therefore, if a ‘yes-or-no’ one word answer for a polar question cannot satisfy, questions that do not require one word answer cannot and should not. Not being Egocentric here.

 

To be practical enough, when you ask ‘how are you?’ and all you could get is a ‘fine’, what would be your next move? Oh, I get. ‘How was your day?’ ‘Fine’. What next? ‘Hope you are doing well’, maybe, you might get a ‘yes…you?’ if she is not too busy with those taking her dinner the next day. In essence, conversation is not when one party does 85% or 90% of the talking. I once had a hot argument with a lady on Facebook who said ‘she doesn’t have time to chat people up or reply messages because of her data and whoever feels offended should unfriend her’. The status was not offending, but come to think of it, you send friend requests to people, accept friend requests and people comment on your pictures, and here you are busy saying you do not have time to reply people! I bet she has time to reply those who spend their money on her cosmetics and subscription.

 

Not much talk would ensue if a guy continues to do all the talking except he has other intentions. There is a better chance of conversing effectively when both parties understand that they are required to reply in a way that clearly shows that both are engaged in such conversation.

 

To treat the question, I believe there is a big chance that a guy whether friend or the one looking for a relationship would get fed up if there chatting history reads that 85% of the words that have been said is from the guy. Everyone has self-respect and it’s a stain on it when you begin to feel like you are forcing yourself on someone whose replies indicate that she is obviously busy or too busy to converse with you.

 

So, YES, a guy can lose interest to continue if he reasons that the girl is not interested or taking notice of their conversation. Surprisingly, some guys possess a very high level of self-worth that they tend to ‘go red’ at the slight notice of girls behavior towards their chats.

 

411? Well, left to either party. For guys, bring up meaningful and interesting topics, don’t bore them with sex, love, romance and any other related subjects. Be attentive and reply reasonably. Girls on the other hand should be cautious, not to lose a potential boyfriend. Reply in a way that shows interest and sometimes, be the ones to chat the guys up too. If you are online but unavailable, send a message to that effect. Lastly, let us be considerate and enjoy each other’s company.

KATE

i had a cold feeling

not to leave what have got

what have fot takes a whole lot of me

and a whole lot of me does nothing else

the feeling is caged

why a whole lot of me does nothing else

all actions are one-faced

so i only make the outside world a guess

a cold feeling in day light

gives me the thought of the real

i would rather be a thousand things

than a consecrated bread.

the poem talks about whatever you do that takea the much of your time. thats the basic interpretation… read and digest more..

CHANGE BEGINS WITH ME- THE IRONY

APRIL, 2018.

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?”.  Jesus Christ (Mathew 7:3)

 
Before the start of the current administration, back in 2014, the word ‘change’ was so frequent that it got attached to the slogan of the opposition party. Towards the end of the assumed failed president Goodluck Ebele Jonathan’s era, the word was used to establish two firm statements;

 
1. Having experienced the hardships faced in Jonathan’s era, the word signified the need for a new government which would perform differently from that current one.

2. To pronounce a final blow on PDP’s governance, accruing support from the masses to send out of the government that government and faithfully and hopeful for a better and comfortable government embrace the Mohammadu Buhari’s APC led governance.
Before the election, most citizens (excluding Goodluck Ebele Jonathan’s loyalists) were fed up of the government and resolved to wash out totally the awfully led administration, so it can be logically concluded that a considerable number of those who supported Mohammadu Buhari’s candidacy  did not do so based on his ideas, manifestoes or his feats achieved during his military spell, rather it was based on the strong resolution to remove the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) out of its historical reign. There is a popular saying among the Yorubas that; obe ge omo lowo, a sobe nu, obe ti se n ti ose, that is, throwing the knife away does not heal the cut. Most citizens understood the unfortunate incidents that happened under Jonathan’s presidency; remember the massacres that happened in the hands of the blood-eyed Boko Haram terrorists, the abduction of the Chibok girls which was one of the famous incidents that landmarked the GEJ era and a host of other unfavorable incidents. Although, some believed he tried at his best but it is still true to assert that Jonathan failed the masses and the revelation of his incapability and lack of skill marked his impending exit.
The present administration is by far not better and it has left people open-mouthed considering it woeful performances. Apart from the opinions of the masses which are mostly subjective, experts, politicians, dignitaries and lately senators have expressed disappointment which has painted the PMB’s administration a failure. In comparison, some laud GEJ’s era as still favorable against the baba-go-slow’s administration. However, this article is not written to compare both rulers or attack one government in favor of another; rain will surely fall another day after today, but rather to make notice evidently the notion that ruled the minds of the people who voted PMB and what the notion has been expended to mean.
The concept of change as conceived by many ( well, the citizens in particular) is reduction in prices of crude oil extracts, reduction in prices of goods, good roads, stable electricity, better schools and the likes. This is why we need government and why we engage in voting, to provide what can make life easier. The present administration has however tag a new meaning to the change that brought it into power.
Contrary to what was promised, it took months for the president who planned to be active to provide ministers, we or most of us heard about the sale proposition of federal schools to foreign buyers that followed, subsidy on petrol and later there were excuses that the government’s account is empty, there is a huge debt on ground and all sorts that clearly explained that Buhari has bitten more than he could chew. Then, Boko Haram insurgents started their bombings, killed hundreds and rendered hundreds homeless less I forget, we also experienced a  bit of a two-government administration, the Nnamdi Kanu’s led IPOB and Buhari’s majority government which almost erupted into another civil war. Lately is the Dapchi girls’ abduction. Let me end the list here. All this while, a mantra has been used- ‘Change Begins With Me’. Well everyone has to change, either we like it or not, it is constant, but there are also some changes that have to happen only through man’s effort. As said earlier, contrary to what was promised, president Buhari’s governance does not or probably has failed to include his ministers or those piloting Nigeria with him into the change business. Various ‘change begins with me’ illustrations has been portrayed in television, radio stations, newspapers and other media channels, where deductively, they end in the idea that the government is not the one to effect change but the citizens have the sole responsibility.
There is a video message of a school boy who at first intended to engage in exam malpractice, but changed his mind before proceeding to the examination hall. The message ends with the mantra, but the question is what could make him want to cheat in exams?  Rather than questioning the student, how about for once we question the policies of the board of education, what have they been doing to ensure a simple, comfortable but reasonable education system where an average student would believe in himself rather than applying external illegal means to pass. There is no more self confidence in any student who studied hard and ended up with failure, what he resorts to is cheating!
Have also seen a policeman reject bribe from a car driver! But only on television, As usual, the initiative ends with the statement, ‘change begins with me’. What could make a government official receive bribe? Surprisingly, we do not always hear the Nigeria Police Commission or other uniformed security agencies embarking on strike but we all know most of them (especially officers on roads or stations) are on minimum wage salaries. These officials would not stop from executing means that could ease life in the absence of substantial treatment that could convince them from receiving bribes.
One the grass root level, teachers of primary and secondary government schools have to perform two functions; attending to their private businesses and teaching the students. The sale of goods in classes has hit a massively high rate since teachers are either owed months salaries or underpaid. Whether the states are adequately funded or not, there are not enough remunerations to sustain the workers and their families.
‘Change begins with me’ is still valid as far as the present administration is concerned but recent revelations have argued otherwise. It appears that the ‘Me’ is ambiguous and vaguely used and as such, should be properly structured. First, common sense would tell us who suppose to kick start development between citizens and the voted, full of promises government. There is no change required if the government the people voted for still wallow in mud of stagnant pool. There is no responsibility required on the part of citizens if they are still faced with the same issues they tried to solve through election. I cannot go on paying my taxes if there are no good roads for the transport of my goods or stable electricity to work in my factory. To some, this might be a wrong mentality; as a father, I would rather take my child to school where he can pass easily without sweat than to continue spending irrelevantly with little or no success. By rational deduction, it suffices that it is the government that should effect change, lay example and not wait for the citizens. Although it is a business of reciprocity, the government is required to act first, and then the citizens would do their parts.
Apart from the rational deduction which explains the duty of the government to take the first step, and if it were so that action is required from different parties without specificity as to who acts first, what has been the change in the government? What are the things the government can prove to have changed to contribute to the ‘Change Begins with Me’ business?
We have of some looters publicly pronounced arrested but none is seen to have been jailed and the amounts retrieved were claimed to have been used for God-knows-what. Since the start of president Buhari’s administration, it is obvious that his kind of change is much more secretive, contrary to the conceptions of democracy.
The president might say he made a change when he moved to reduce the salaries of top government officials. Needful to know that salaries are not allowances, he failed to cut the allowances but came out in the open to tell us he had reduced their salaries. Well, an average conscious Nigerian understands that allowances are much more than salaries. Main reason why our senators never prolonged the issue after the president moved on salary slashing. A senator’s salary is not enough to purchase A-listed cars in a month. A senator can be salaried seven hundred thousand naira (700,000) per month but receives millions of naira as allowances. It is either the president is playing on our intelligence or he is ignorant of the fact that senators do not live on salaries.
Another change which has proved ineffective or largely uncoordinated is the Empowerment program (N-Power) initiated for unemployed youths. Shamefully, our government pays graduates thirty thousand naira (30,000) monthly. Maybe we could call president Buhari’s non-availability or non-responsiveness the change, his concentration on fighting political parties’ war rather than performing his duties as the president, or his unconstitutional release of the list of corrupt ex-officials which surprisingly did not include any of his party members. One more, how about his ‘assent in ignorance’ to the list of appointed officials who were later revealed to be dead? Maybe we could call that change but I strongly believe such is not expected of the first citizen of a 180 million populated country.
I reckon not to use the whole page stating the gross inadequacies of the PMB led administration as the happenings speak for themselves. The present leadership can be summed up in lies, meaningless actions, ignorance, incapacity and irresponsibility. Our president lacks the skills required in coordinating the country because he proves ignorance on almost every matter (except for his claim on the fight against corruption). As contradicting as he put his ideas of democracy, he prefers to make statements from international meetings abroad than making himself available at home. Let us not forget the massacres in the hands of the Fulani herdsmen. Till now, there has been very little or no action taken to secure the lives and properties of villagers. Religion cleansing or not, it appears the country is religiously governed. No tangible step has been taken concerning the Kaduna killings. Contrary to the way he handled the of IPOB case, it seems a set of Nigerians has unlimited freedom of action.
The mantra- ‘Change Begins With Me’ is just a statement created by largely incompetent or otherwise unserious leaders to create a mental burden on individuals. When the promises are fulfilled, the people would surely adapt to the changes. You cannot expect anyone to change without giving them reasons to. If the government wants to record successful records of tax payments, they should make the living standards better and trade transactions comfortable. To prevent bribery and corruption among government workers, they should make their works enjoyable with enough remuneration and also enact active sanctions for guilty officers. It is not feasible to change if I am not provided with opportunities and avenue where change is necessary. Change begins in and with the government but must continue with the citizens. The government should do what would require change in the individual not expecting us to come and tell them how many foreign accounts they are to have or not expecting drivers not to pay a token in lieu of a huge fine for providing invalid car particulars.

 

 

TITILOLA Babatunde Dayo Maskman

OAU, Ile-Ife.

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